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Last week I had a little incident with my horses. Having two horses in leadroap behind me and the dog on a leash in front I enjoyed the walk from the pasture to the stable when the dog's leash made a strange sound. Well, not to me or the dog, but my Danish Warmblood, who is a bit jumpy these days, got scared and jumped forward and right on my back. After all, being close to Mum is the safest place in the world. For a second it felt like she was actually sitting on my shoulders. On her way off of this splendid seat, her hoofs landed on my ankle. It all happened fast, and after a few minutes we could continue our walk. However with some really beaten up neck-muscles on my behalf. The following days I was pretty sore and couldn't move my head much. After a week, the ankle started to hurt. I went to the doctor's to check it, and was sent to the hospital for x-rays. When it was my turn, a nice radiographist came over to me, smiled and said "So, the horse was mean to you." I stopped and looked at him. "No", I said, "she was frightened, her natural reaction was to get away from what scared her, and I was in her way."
His comment made me start thinking of how we use words without being aware of the meaning of the word.
Being mean, to me it means that you on purpose do something that will harm others. That you intentionally want to hurt the other. This not-thought-through sentence started a chain of thoughts in me. Well, I had the time, sitting on the hospital waiting for results for some good long hours. Are we really aware of the meaning of the words we use in our everyday language? Are we really aware of what kind of impact the words we choose have on us and on others? Taste the word "mean - being mean to", notice what it is doing to your emotions. Is it a word that makes you feel stronger, or does it bring your energy down?
This brings me over to another word used daily, all over the world - deadline. Taste the word. Take it in, feel what it does to your body, mind and soul. Imagine this - you've got a new exciting project, you feel how energized you are about it. Take a moment and feel how the excitement and the energy works in your body, you can't wait to get started, and to do your absolute best. And then - "the deadline is at the end of this month". Feel the energy now. What did that word do to you? Can you feel how the energy drops to the floor, instead of bringing the energy further? The word kind of put a stop to it. Maybe it is about time to replace that word with something else - something more positive?
I know the radiographist just wanted to start a conversation, it was maybe his way of showing me he felt sorry for me. His choice of words suprised me, because I would never think in that direction. That explains also my respond to him. I know that horses don't intentionally want to hurt people. They are driven by their natural instincts.
My Rowena didn't intentionally mean to hurt me. And this I can say, if that horse could speak Human Language she would have said all the way up the hill to the stable "Marit, I am so, so sorry. I didn't mean to! Sorry, Marit, sorry!" All the way up her muzzle touched my arm like if she wanted to show me how sorry she was, to be assured I was ok. To be certain that her and me were ok. When we go for a walk she normally holds her head up high - as the majestic horse she is.
She worships my ground - as I worship hers!
And the ankle - no fracture or tendon rupture, just an inflammation in the achilles tendon...





